Last
week’s news was dominated by the deaths of three celebrities: Ed McMahon,
who entered our homes as Johnny Carson’s sidekick, and later – we wished –
as the man bearing the big check from Publisher’s Clearinghouse. Farrah
Fawcett, whose pin-up poster sold 12 million copies and appeared in the dorm
rooms of a generation, and whose hairstyle literally sent millions of
American women to stylists asking to “look like Farrah.” And Michael
Jackson, who was performing as a gifted song-and-dance talent from as early
as age five. By the time he would emerge from among his family as the
preeminent Jackson entertainer, his albums would sell 750 million copies.
Days later, we learned that 50-year-old Billy Mays had just died of a heart
attack. Billy was the “As Seen on TV” pitch man who sold us products while
operators were standing by: OxiClean, Orange Glo, Mighty Putty, a health
insurance plan, ESPN 360.
Michael Jackson’s death set off a veritable panic. It took one of my family
members, who works near UCLA, three extra hours to get home because the
crowds outside UCLA Medical Center, where Jackson died, were so massive. On
the famous Hollywood Walk of Fame, throngs placed wreaths and wept at
Michael Jackson’s star on the cement – not realizing that they were mourning
at the star of the
wrong Michael Jackson,
a radio talk show host.
The death of Michael Jackson the Moonwalker eclipsed Ms. Fawcett’s death
earlier that morning. When she had died, the TV networks began preparing to
preempt their regular programming for the night, for their respective
documentaries remembering her life: the hairdo, the poster, the marriage to
the Six Million Dollar Man, the divorce, the surprising reminder that she
had acted only one year on “Charlie’s Angel’s” before moving to made-for-TV
films. Ryan O’Neal, her long-time companion, told an interviewer that, while
there are many “celebrities,” Ms. Fawcett genuinely was a “star.” And yet
her star was eclipsed the day of her death; media focus of remembrance
rapidly shifted mid-day to Jackson
And so, as each element of our media-driven society – the cable news and
celebrity-gossip programs in particular – endeavor to keep the stories
running, it is worthwhile pausing to ask whether there is anything for us to
learn from it all.
There is.
Life is short. So terribly short. “The days of our lives are seventy years
and, [if blessed with extra] strength, eighty years . . . so much of it hard
work and emptiness cut off suddenly and we fly away. . . . So teach us [O
G-d] to count our days.” (Tehillim 90:10,12 ) We know we will not live
forever, but how we do let the days go by! And why not? For “tomorrow is
another day.” And then, suddenly, the little boy for whom we bought his
first ice cream cone at his first state fair, and the little girl we pushed
on a swing, each has a packed suitcase at the front door, bidding us
good-bye as each leaves the nest, closing a chapter in our biographies. And
soon our parents’ friends – people with whom we grew up – are dying. And
then parents.
Tomorrow is not another day. Tomorrow is a noun that means that today is
lost forever. Yesterday, too. There is no tomorrow for even the greatest of
celebrities whose time comes. Nor is there a today for those of us who would
consume it watching and reading all about them. Our moments to realize our
own dreams and hopes are today.
Synagogues are filled with congregants who congregate to reach the
spiritual, the Divine. The rabbi or shul president announces after services
that Torah classes will be meeting during the week. A chesed committee will
be doing acts of kindness on Tuesday. A scholar is visiting and will speak
next week. Do we take advantage of every moment, every opportunity that
comes our way to grow Jewishly? Do we passionately seize the day’s
opportunity to grow closer to G-d, acting as if there is no tomorrow and as
if today is too precious to waste?
The real stars are not on the screen but in the firmaments, and they are
counted only by G-d. “He counts the number of the stars, and He calls each
one by its name.” (Tehillim 147:4) But we do have the chance – at least a
bit – to number our days. We need only contemplate how quickly our heroes
and our legends pass. How quickly their laughter fades, their smiles fade,
their hair, their booming voices, their dancing. There is so little time.
And every precious moment is witnessed by the stars above and G-d above
them.