Conversion to Judaism
under the Sponsorship
of Rav Fischer
On Converting to Judaism
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Several times every year,
I am approached by individuals or couples in Orange County who would
like to know more about converting to Judaism. “What does it
entail?” I am asked. “And how does ‘converting Orthodox’
differ from converting with a Conservative or Reform Rabbi?
What will be expected of me? Will my children be accepted as
Jewish?”
The brief answer
is: it is not that simple. We are Orthodox.
Consequently, our very world view of conversion is defined by our
understanding of G-d’s word as articulated in the Written Torah and
amplified in the Oral Law. Thus, a conversion to Judaism is
not merely about joining a new family or joining a new team.
It is not merely about changing holidays, learning some Hebrew,
singing “Hava Nagila,” or showing a love for Israel or
feeling bad about the Holocaust. Rather, conversion is about
adopting a new personal
way of life.
I cannot adequately emphasize that last sentence. When you convert to Judaism, your entire lifestyle changes – forever. You begin every morning by reciting certain prayers. If you are male, you not only must pray three times daily, but you must don tefillin every morning for the rest of your life (except for Sabbaths, Biblical festivals, and one modified rule on a specific Fast Day) – and you must worship daily in a minyan service at synagogue. Your eating habits will change – because they must. You no longer will eat non-kosher food or patronize restaurants that lack proper kosher supervision and certification. For the rest of your life, you will wait several hours after eating meat or poultry before you may eat something dairy. Every week, your Friday nights (after sunset) and Saturdays (until nightfall) will be governed by the rules of the “Day of Rest.” Some of those rules will delight you. Some will take some time assimilating into your view of “rest.” When you are invited to a “wine and cheese” social, you will be concerned whether the wine is kosher and whether the cheese is kosher – so, typically, you will not attend wine-and-cheese events sponsored outside your new faith community. Meanwhile, you will be expected to spend the rest of your life making some time every day, at least some time every week, to learn and study Torah texts, to keep growing. Your children, when you have them, will have to attend a yeshiva day school. Not a public school. Not a “community Jewish school.” And even your personal lives, the intimacy of husband and wife, will be governed by Torah law.
That’s a whole
bunch for an opening paragraph. But there is so very much
more. And that is why, unlike a “Reform conversion” or a
“Conservative conversion,” an “Orthodox conversion” entails and
demands so much more than just
learning the laws and lifestyle. Rather, you will have to
live the laws and lifestyle -- for the rest of your life.
And for that reason, your conversion will take quite a bit longer
than the other kinds of programs. Because your study regime
will be aimed not merely at teaching you the information but also at
helping guide you into absorbing the information and assimilating
our practices and beliefs into the rest of your life’s works.
Remember that high school course in which you
scored an “A” on your final exam and report card – but whose
substance you barely remember today? Maybe it was biology
class. Maybe world history. You memorized everything
there was to know about the amoeba or the paramecium. You
memorized all the dynasties of China’s early power families.
You memorized the kings of France and England, the dates of their
wars. You knew it all so perfectly for the final exam, and
your “A” on the report card demonstrated your knowledge.
But today you are a doctor, and you don’t know
the “Wars of the Roses” from the “War of the Roses.” The
Hundred Years War? Henry I? Henry II? John I?
John II? How many Johns were there? Henrys? And,
for that matter, Phillips?
When you study
for “conversion”
outside an Orthodox Torah framework, your teachers will have a
curriculum for you, and they will teach you. You will learn a
great deal. You will take the test. Your program may run
three months. Maybe six months. Maybe a bit longer.
But – five years
later – will you be reciting the blessing thanking G-d for water
before you drink a cup of water? Will you be reciting the
blessings thanking G-d for other foods? After your meals, will
you be reciting the closing blessings? Will you be at daily
services, donning
tefillin, praying the services daily? Will you be
living what you were taught? Maybe.
By contrast, there is no “maybe” in an
Orthodox “conversion.” Your program will last longer – much
longer. At least a year. More like two years.
Sometimes even longer. You not only will learn the curriculum,
but you will live it – every day, every meal, every Sabbath, every
holiday. You will be expected, within six months, to be
residing within a half-mile’s walking-distance from your sponsoring
rabbi’s Orthodox synagogue. If I am your sponsoring Rav, for
example, you will have to be residing within half a mile of my Shul.
Even as you study a comprehensive curriculum with your assigned
mentor, meeting once every week, you also will be required to attend
my weekly Tuesday night class on Chumash/ Rashi commentary/
Contemporary Halakhah (Jewish Law and Practice). Families in
my shul will invite you to join them for Shabbat meals. Often,
Ellen and I will ask you to join us and our invited guests for a
Shabbat or Yom Tov (Holiday) meal. We will talk. We will
learn. We will laugh. And, in a very real way, we will
become extended family.
Your weekly class with the mentor will
continue, week after week. Your attendance at my weekly
Tuesday night Chumash-Rashi-Halakhah class will continue, week after
week. You will attend Shul, recite blessings of thanks, and
increasingly take on more and more of the Torah lifestyle. For
a year. Longer.
All the while, your progress will be monitored
by the Beth Din (Rabbinic Panel) of the Rabbinical Council of
California (RCC). It will be they who initially approve you
for the “conversion” program. You will meet with them in Los
Angeles once every three months, or so, as they monitor your
progress and growth, get to know you. And it will be they who
ultimately signal the “green light” – again, perhaps after a year,
perhaps after two years, perhaps even longer – for your day of
“conversion.”
So, with that introduction, let’s look closer at
the “nuts and bolts” – the steps along the path:
I.
First, I will ask you to write me a substantive note, a letter or statement as to what you are looking for. What motivates your query. Why you would want to take on such a life. Tell me your story.
Through my offices, as your sponsoring rabbi, I will guide you as you begin the process that culminates in your living an absolutely Torah-true life, observing the Shabbat according to its laws, eating strictly kosher in and out of the home, etc.
You will not be alone. Ellen and I are close with at least 15 couples in which a spouse, typically the wife, has converted to Judaism, while the Jewish-born spouse, typically the husband, has become Torah-observant en route. Presently, I am working with three more such couples on an active “conversion” path. During these past few months, we recently celebrated two new “conversions.”
The thing is, I can sponsor a “conversion” only when the prospective convert (and the significant other, where there is a couple) undertake unequivocally to live a fully Torah-directed life, which means in short time – observing Shabbat (including attending worship services on Shabbat, but no driving on Shabbat, no turning lights on and off, no TV on Shabbat, no money, not using the phone, etc.); observing kashrut (including establishing a kitchen with two sets of dishes/ flatware/ cookware, strict purchase of kosher-only cheeses, breads, and wines, and evolving towards kosher-only eating out of the home, too).
To reach this level of practice, it becomes absolutely mandatory within the first six months that you are in the program for you to establish a permanent residency within walking distance of my Shul. Otherwise, how can I observe and celebrate your growth and evolution, invite you occasionally for Shabbat meals spontaneously, and assure you are plugged into other avenues of Shabbat meal invites? That is, how else can I sponsor you?
So, as Step One, please write me your story.
Thereafter, perhaps, we can set a meeting.
II.
Once I have read your story, we can set a time to sit and meet in my office. I can share insights with you, and you can emerge better informed of what it means to become a Jew – really, authentically, to become and live as a Jew as that term and lifestyle have been understood for thousands of years.
III.
If you choose to
proceed after we have met, your next step on the “conversion”
process entails your calling Rav Union, the executive director of
the Rabbinical Council of California (RCC). You would tell Rav Union
that you have met with Rav Dov Fischer in Irvine, who laid out the
process for you. As noted above, it is a process that can take
maybe two years, maybe three – well transcending a year of study
. . . as the period of study also begins the period of
practice, and it can take some two or three years of
practice until it becomes really internalized within you –
keeping and observing Shabbat properly, keeping kosher in-and-out of
the home, living the Torah life.
In that next stage, then, you meet
personally with Rav Union, and – if he emerges persuaded that your
candidacy is rooted in a sincere readiness to take on a Torah
lifestyle (along with your significant other, if there is one) – he
assigns you books to read.
IV.
A month or two
later, when you feel you have read and mastered the assigned volumes
and have absorbed their essence, you would call Rav Union and ask
that he set an appointment for your initial meeting with a 3-rabbi
panel (the “Beth Din” or “Bayt Din”). The Rabbinical
Panel typically includes Rav Union and two other prominent rabbis.
At that meeting, again at the RCC’s Los Angeles offices, they get to
know you, too. Every three months or so thereafter, you travel
to Los Angeles, where the RCC office is based, and you again meet
with the Bayt Din. At each such meeting, they speak
with you and continue gauging your evolution.
V.
Throughout this
process, every week, from the time that the RCC Rabbinical
Panel decides you are ready to start learning, you study at
least twice weekly here in Irvine –
-
once-weekly with a same-gender mentor in Irvine, whom RCC will designate for you as your personal mentor through the multi-year process, and
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the other time each week at my Tuesday night Chumash-Rashi-Halakhah class from 7:30-9:00 p.m.
Over time, you
learn – you learn an
enormous amount – and, much more importantly to the process,
you practice what you learn. You live what you learn.
You grow, and you evolve. In time, a conversion date is set
when the RCC Rabbinic Panel feels you are ready. The Beth Din/Bayt
Din makes that decision in consultation with your mentor and with
your sponsoring Rav.
If you think about it, American citizens who break American law retain their American citizenship. Felons may lose the franchise but not citizenship. By contrast, immigrants who wish to naturalize – essentially, to “convert” to Americans -- must meet a higher, longer, more demanding, pure standard. So it is with Jews and Judaism. If the “significant other” will not live the lifestyle, then there can be no “conversion.” If the couple cannot live within walking distance of a Shul, then they cannot possibly attend Shabbat services at Shul every week in a manner that conforms to halakha. Because, on Shabbat, a Jew must walk, not drive. And one must go to Shul.
There is no question but that our standards and requirements reduce the number of people who opt to pursue a “conversion” course in our ranks. But every “convert” in our Torah community becomes a leader in the community of Torah fellowship because, once you are in with your spouse, you not only talk the talk – but you walk the walk. On Shabbat.
Within walking
distance of us, and within our Eruv, there are apartments to rent at
Parkwest Apartments. There are condominia to rent or buy at
Rancho San Joaquin Apartments. You may want to “Google” them
and contact them. This is what my wife and I had to do when we
moved to Irvine. This is what all Jews must do – we must live
within walking distance of a Shul. If we cannot afford to live
within walking distance of a Shul in Irvine, then we find another
community, more affordable, and live within walking distance of
that Shul. For some, it means leaving L.A. and moving to
Seattle or Portland or Cincinnati.
If you do opt to
pursue an Orthodox “conversion” from a residence based in Irvine, I
would be honored to act as your sponsoring Rav – the RCC’s
representative in Irvine – guiding you and your mentor, overseeing
your progress, teaching you, and welcoming you into my
congregation’s life. Some of my most meaningful relationships
have arrived from this role.
A final word: money. I do not charge or accept any remuneration, payment, or other gift or emolument for time I devote to your “conversion” process as your sponsoring Rav. There are certain nominal fees that the RCC may charge, and your mentor may receive a fee. In all, you will find that the “conversion” framework is not viewed as a meaningful source of funding within the Orthodox Torah community.
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